Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Wet your whistle and check the loo!


(Welcome to the new Wednesday edition of A Healthy Wife. Believing that being a good steward of our body is a spiritual responsibility, we will be focusing on some health and nutrition issues each Wednesday. A bit shorter and chocked full of info, Healthy Wife Wednesdays are unashamedly bold and colorful; A mouthful of facts and opinions to chew on all day!)

Wet your whistle and check the loo!

“Mommy, my head hurts.”
“Mommy, my tummy hurts.”
“Wow, someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.”
“I’m sooo hot!”
“Ugh! My skin is breaking out!”

My husband jokes that my first prescription for any ailment my family complains about is to ask, “Have you been drinking enough water?”



Water is a very basic and powerful “medicine.” Water is vital in circulation, digestion, joint lubrication, bladder and bowel elimination, skin and hair health and much, much more.

There are 2 main things to be concerned with when it comes to water and your health.

Quantity and Quality.

With over 2/3 of your body consisting of water it is pretty important that you get enough of it. You can survive weeks without food but only a few days without water.

You have probably heard several different rules and gauges for making sure you drink enough water. Should you drink a strict 8 glasses a day? What if you work out? Do coffee and tea count?

The best rule of thumb I have found is to take your body weight number in pounds, cut it in half and drink that number in ounces of water each day.

For example, if I weigh 150 pounds I divide 150 in half to get 75. I then try to drink 75 ounces of water each day as a baseline amount.

For me, anything I drink while working out does not count toward my baseline. For others it may. I sweat a lot and often find myself dehydrated. So for me, the more I can drink on a workout day the better.

If you are not into measuring out water and feel much more relaxed about the whole issue, then this other basic rule may work better for you.

Check the color of your urine. Seriously.

It should be very pale yellow to no color at all. If it is basic yellow to darker yellow you should be drinking more water. 

Some people judge their hydration by whether they are thirsty or not, but for me by the time I feel thirsty I am already dehydrated. Listen to your body and do your best to make a good decision. By the way, other drinks such as coffee, tea and soda will actually dehydrate you. These should not count toward your daily total.


The quality of the water you drink is just as important as how much you drink. This can be a very sticky subject with many opinions and facts to wade through.

In my opinion the best water to drink is filtered or cleaned using reverse osmosis. I have read too many problems with distilled, tap and bottled water.  One fact I found stated that up to 40% of bottled water is actually just regular tap water that may or may not have received any additional treatment, flavors, or sweeteners.

For more information, just Google any of these topics and you will have enough reading material to last weeks and I haven’t even mentioned containers and plastics. That could be a whole other blog. Plastic was okay –now it is not. Nalgene was good – now you need HDPE Nalgene… Good old glass is still by far the best, but not always convenient.

When you feel like you are up against the wall and there are no good choices left –then my health mantra will come into play.

“Pray hard. Do your best. God will take care of the rest.”

Now, go get yourself a tall glass of ice water. Drink it down and you will feel a whole lot better!

Monday, June 3, 2013

Mary, Martha and Pinterest


Have you ever had one of those days when you feel you are going crazy trying to get through your “To Do” list and everyone around you (husband, kids, co-workers) seem to be just sitting there doing nothing? 

Or worse yet, they are all doing the things YOU WISH you could do like reading for fun, playing games, gardening, watching a movie, swimming, talking with friends… but NOOOOOOOO! You have too much work to do and resent their leisure.

“Ugh! I wish I could sit around doing nothing all day, but someone has to do the work around here!”

“These clothes don’t wash themselves – Neither do the dishes, floors, windows, toilets…”



You get the point!

Ahhhhhhh! Martha! Martha!

All my life I have been known to be a “Martha”.

For those of you missing the biblical context, Martha and her sister Mary found themselves with the Ultimate dinner guest, Jesus.

Martha, wanting to make sure her guest was cared for –not to mention the 12 disciple entourage-  began making preparations to serve her guests dinner. In that day and age with no Wegmans, Walmart, refrigeration or electricity dinner was no easy task. Everything was literally made from scratch! Seriously, this was her time to shine or fade as a hostess to the King of Kings! Think Martha Sterwart and Pinterest rolled into one! The possibilities are endless! She could make the casserole to end all casseroles and the decorations had to be perfect...and... Hmmmmm...Are you feeling exhausted yet?



Mary, the younger sister, unconcerned with any thoughts of impressing the guests with a nice meal or clean house- just hung out with Jesus and his friends listening to the stories of their travels and the miracles they had encountered.

Martha becomes frustrated with Mary’s lack of help in the kitchen and complains to Jesus hoping He will back her and tell Mary to “get to work”.

It blew up in Martha’s face. Jesus commends Mary for her good choice of activities and rebukes Martha for her many distractions and worries.

Not quite what Martha was bargaining for. She didn’t get the help she wanted and the object of her frustration, Mary got the kudos! Ughhh! That’s the worst.

I am a Martha. A professional Martha. I am not proud of it. It is my nature and God has been gently rebuking me on deeper and deeper levels as over the years He has been sloughing off the decay in my life.

I have heard teachings on this story form Luke 10 so many times that I almost get nauseous at the hint of another Martha Message! Nauseous because I can’t seem to stop being a Martha!

I struggle with this - Marthaism. I have almost resigned myself to this as my “thorn in the flesh” as the Apostle Paul would have put it.

If everyone became a Mary – how would anything get done? If we all just sit around and let life roll who would be in charge? Who would plan things? Wouldn’t everything just fall apart?

I have been trying to wrap my head around the deeper meanings of this story for years!

Several weeks ago I was listening to the podcast of a nationally known minister and he made reference to the Mary and Martha story. I listened even though my eyes were rolling and stomach flopping.

Luke chapter 10 verses 41 and 42 read “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better and it will not be taken away from her.” (New International Version)

The minister in the podcast mentioned that the original language used to describe Martha as worried and upset meant to be distracted, anxious, multi-minded. Whereas Mary was single-minded, focused fully on Jesus.  

It was the multi-minded vs. single-minded that caught my attention. I had to look it up myself.

Mary had the laser focus; tuned into Jesus and what he had for her in that moment. Martha was a laser on the fritz. Zap, zip, zap zz-zzap. She flitted here and there. Always rushing. Always busy. When she did sit down her mind was still zipping and zapping.



If I, a Martha, am not focused on what Jesus wants me focused on, what are the ramifications of that?

Am I missing what God has for me today? In this moment am I missing the lesson? The opportunities? Friendships? Blessings? If I could sit, quiet my body, mind and spirit, could I tune in to him and his voice. His sweet words? His song?

There are always tasks to do, projects to complete, goals to achieve. But I believe there is discernment to know when to work at them and when to sit and listen in the quiet to Jesus speaking love, joy and peace into your heart. Absorb those words like a sponge. Let them wash over you flushing away the stress of Marthaism. Settle your spirit to become Mary on a regular basis and I bet you will find Martha work a lot less frazzled and maybe even a little more enjoyable.



SO WHAT!? (Our application portion of the blog. Please don’t read and proceed with your life unchanged. Stop a minute and apply what you just read so you can continue your journey a healthier you!)
1.     Identify whether you tend toward being a Martha or Mary.
2.     If you are a Mary – good for you, but are there tasks that God is asking you to do that you are sitting on? Ask Jesus to help you move into action!
3.     If you are a Martha – strive today to find even 5 minutes to get away quiet to hear what God is trying to tell you. Take a quick walk after the kids are in bed. Lock yourself in the bathroom with a journal and pen in hand. Find a quiet spot at work where you can stop and think a minute about your life and what God has been teaching you. Try for 5 days and see what difference it makes!
4.     There are positive and negatives to each of the women in the story. Think about your social media subscriptions: Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, Google+. Do any of these influence you negatively and push you further toward being too over committed or too under committed?
5.     Leave comments at the end of the blog to let all of us know how you are doing! Comments can be anonymous. You do not need a Google account to comment but we need each other for support and encouragement! 

Monday, May 13, 2013

Liar! Liar! Emotions - Part 3


I am exhausted by my emotions this week. 
No I am defeated…and not by my emotions really but by the lies generating the emotions.

My head is full of lies. 
Yes, I lie to myself –even when I don’t know it. 
These lies begin to work their evil and my unconscious response is an emotion. The emotion rises to the surface and I feel it. Often I do not know why I am feeling it until I check in and try to figure out the root cause. This search brings me face to face with a lie.

But where do the lies come from? How are they created?

Several professional authors and counselors that I have read and listened to say some of these lies start back when we were young and can be labeled as core beliefs. These “core beliefs” are facts that we believe about ourselves according to what others told us or taught us. I also think these lies/beliefs come from a combination of my sin nature, messages I receive from media/movies/television, comparing myself with my friends and family and of course, Satan working his evil in my mind, trying to knock me off the path toward Christ.

“Be self controlled and alert. You enemy, the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith…” 1 Peter 5:8&9a

Sometimes it can be days before I realize I have begun to believe a lie about myself or my circumstances. 
Months even. 
Definitely years. 
I believed several lies about myself for about 30 years before a dedicated counseling friend brought me to the brink of reality and gently opened my emotional and spiritual eyes.




What are some of the lies you and I believe? Here is a sampling…

“There is really nothing good about me. I am dumb, ugly and worthless.”

“No one would really love me for who I am. I must earn love.”

“My kid’s behavior shows whether I am a good or bad mom.”

“My house should be picked up and clean most of the time.”

“It is VERY important for people to like me.”

“I need to look like the women in the magazines and on TV.”

“It is a sign of weakness to ask for help.”

“If I am not the best at something, it is not worth even trying.”

“My kids need to be involved in lots of activities or they will miss out and not be well adjusted.”

“I cannot be overweight because people will think less of me.”

“My husband won’t love me if I can’t keep the house and kids under control.”

“If I am not attractive and taking care of myself, my husband will let his eyes look elsewhere.”

“God doesn’t really care about the little details of my life.”

“I am a failure.”

“Nobody really likes me.”

Several heavy emotions are tied to each one of these lies. Can you even imagine what condition you would be in if you believed all these lies and carried all those emotions?

Many of us do it all the time. 

This is what I discovered this week when I found myself exhausted emotionally. I had begun to believe some awful lies about myself again. Those old companions from the past had crept back into my mind.

We are not meant to bear these emotionally charged burdens. 

In the same passage as above, Peter says, “Humble yourselves, therefore under God’s mighty hand that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:6&7)

What I have found helpful when faced with my own lies is to search for the counter truth in scripture that will cause those lies to dissolve and disappear. 

John 8:31&32 says, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.”

I need freedom from the lies. We all need freedom. True freedom is only found through Christ Jesus.

Search scripture for the truth! The truth will set you free!

What is the truth about how, when or even “if” God loves me?

What is the truth about what God has called me to do as a wife/mother?

What is the truth about my self worth and usefulness to society?

What is the truth about my role in my marriage?

All these answers can be found in the Bible. We need to be reading it enough to find those truths. Then when we come face to face with the lies (and the Liar) we can counter attack with Truth and be set Free!

This is good work and will result in great forward motion toward becoming a healthier person! You are worth it!  FREEDOM is worth it!




SO WHAT!?
You have probably guessed what today’s homework entails.

1. Check in with yourself and listen carefully for the lies lurking behind the emotions are you are feeling. Identify as many lies as possible.

For example:
You are saying to yourself, “I just can’t keep up with all of this housework! I feel so frustrated and overwhelmed!”

After some thought…Lie identified: “I am not a good mom/wife unless my house is clean all of the time for my family.” This lie has several facets. Obviously it is good to clean your house and do your best to keep things picked up and manageable, but to become overly upset and angry about the situation that you are depressed, defeated and/or lashing out at children or husband is a warning sign that keeping a clean house has become more than just a chore. It has become a belief. This lie could also be tied to “I am worthless.” “I can’t do anything right.” Pick the whole situation apart until you get to ALL of the ugly lies then counter them with truth.

2. Search the scriptures to find the truths to counter the lies. Meditate on those scriptural truths. In the past I had made a list of my lies and the counter truths. I have found that over the years, the lies have changed and so the counter truths need to also. 

Example continued:Truth from scripture

You say: I am not worthless.

The Bible says: “I am God’s workmanship…” Ephesians 2:10. “God so loved the world, (me) that he gave his only Son…” John 3:16.

You say: I can do things right.

The Bible says: “I am confident that God will complete the good work He started in me...” Philippians 1:6. When I do things wrong I can learn and grow and change for the better.


Keep working on it! If you are like me, some of these lies have been with you for a LONG time and may take some time to excavate your heart. Your freedom is at stake. Keep up the good work!

I pray that God gives you some quiet moments this week to reflect and work through these lies.


There are so many books and authors that I could point you to about lies. I hesitate to do so because I think the first place we need to start is with THE BOOK, the Holy Bible. Get your hands on His inspired Holy Word today. If you need help processing through some of those lies or situations, contact me! I would love to hear your story. We can learn together.




You can always check out what I have been reading by going to the blog website and browsing my bookshelf on the right hand side. Very eclectic! Enjoy!